Human is a social animal and for him, relationships are essential for a better life.
If there are no proper relationships, a person will face hardships in physical and psychological support.
So he always tries to have some relationships with fellow humans. But interestingly, some relations break or get worse over time. Very few remain good for long.
So why are there struggles in relationships?
I remember one old quote which I heard from a colleague. It says most people fight for either money, land, or women.
I thought it is correct to some extent, but there are also few other reasons why relationships go sour. These include
- Lack of commitment,
- Excess dominance,
- Lack of time,
- Improper health
Common Reasons Why relationships fail
Everyone has certain levels of ego and this varies based on income, property, social status, appearance etc.
In a relationship, most of the time one is dominant over other. Here the other accepts the dominance willfully. But, this has threshold and when it is breached then there arises issues in between.
So, in such a case, to avoid further complications, one has to be ready to step down and mend the relationship.
Borrowing money & not returning it: Whenever you fall short of money, you immediately turn towards your friend or cousins or relatives. This is, in fact, the biggest problem in the long term. At a minimum, it removes respect in your relationship. There are very few relationships strong due to money matters. Since finances can be a toil, this even endangers relationships.
Making comments on complaints in the back: Commenting can be fun on each other in most relationships. But the same comments done in the person’s absence in front of others pose a big problem. This happens when he knows about your comment through others. There arises suspicion and dishonesty gradually, which might one day lead to a breakage of the relationship.
Lack of respect: Mutual respect is a must in a relationship. When this is gone, almost everything slowly declines. No two people can continue to have a relationship without mutual respect arising with love.
Ego problems: A couple might find ego problems over time due to a change in their career success rates.
Fighting for the same object: This is a troublesome and sometimes dangerous factor. There are might also arise clashes and crimes due to the fight for the same object (love with a girl or property etc.). Someone has to win, so the other if accepts it, there can be fewer problems. But, the relationship is not strong and loses its magnitude with time even after one wins.
Suppose you are married and try to maintain an affair with others and which is not liked by your spouse. Honesty comes with mutual respect. When honesty prevails, other compatibility problems slowly soothe away and relationships prevail. This is a key factor in marriage, love, business, politics, etc. If there is a breach of honesty, the relationship can be said to have broken forever. So honesty to your partner in marriage, business, politics, etc., is mandatory.
Not spending sufficient time for a relationship: If one is married or not, still if he has family-like parents, siblings, or wife, one must always devote some time to build relationships. Many problems in a relationship arise due to not spending sufficient time with family, friends, relatives, etc.
Not wishing or exchanging: We find many greeting cards, gifts in the market, not just for business but because they are intended for building relationships.