Why Do People Hate Me|7 Basic Reasons to Think

If you are worried about why people hate me, remember that you are not the only one. Almost everyone is hated by someone. People hate us for varied reasons and it isn’t easy to convince everyone and make them like you.

Even great people like Lord Jesus Christ, Mahatma Gandhi were also hated by few and hence faced unnatural deaths. So just a liking is common; even hatred is common.

But still, one needs to check why people hate us. Is it really problematic to the society around us or our growth or the betterment of our loved ones? If so, we need to alter the glitches while dealing with people and if not, be less concerned.

People do hate us for multiple reasons and some of them can be outlined as below.

Why do people hate me? a few possible reasons

1. Not doing our duties properly:

It is the most common reason why people can hate us and many people face this issue. This is because if you are into any official position or job which is needed for the processing of other requirements like their salaries or pension or any other then the people expecting the thing to happen to start hating you if you delay the work due to your laziness or negligence etc. Since this habit is troublesome to others, it better needs to be corrected for everyone’s benefit.

2. Not able to communicate properly

This sounds like a silly issue that is not troublesome to others, but still, if people find you unable to communicate properly, they dislike you. People generally like those who are free to move around, communicate properly, and have a nice sense of humor. To check if your communication has some problems. You can overcome it to see that people like you.

3. Unable to mix with people

We, humans, are social animals. So it is common that we mix up with each other and hence involve in chat or gathering for fun or party etc. If you are unable to mix with others freely then, many will dislike you. Hence you might have noticed that a person who mixes up freely with others is happier and have more friends in life than those who do not like to mix up.

Mixing up is an art; it involves many aspects like helping each other, making fun, sharing jokes and teasing, etc. Those who are sensitive to be teased end up alone and unable to mix up with others. Such people are not liked by those who like mixing up.

4. Not following rules

We are in a civilized society and live in times where everyone has to abide by the rules of the country’s constitution or nation. Be it a democratic or communist sort still, we need to live based on the land or the community’s rules. If you are not abiding by the rules, then you are hated by many. This may be sometimes troublesome and may call for punishment from the governing authority. Hence people dislike those who are corrupt.

5. Out of jealousy of you

Sometimes people are jealous of you for reasons beyond thought. They are jealous of your personality, beauty, ability, possession, wealth, reputation, success, etc. This is not harmful but sometimes very dangerous. As we can notice people causing intense harm to others just because they were jealous of the victim.

6. To have an extra edge on you in your office/workplace

This is quite common. If there is someone who wishes to have an extra edge in your career etc., in your office, they try to spread bad rumors about you so that others dislike you. This is just a temporary effect and if you stand by your character and hard work, people will again realize your worth and start liking and respecting you.

7. Your outlook

People can also hate you based on your outlook.

Dressing and grooming: If you are not neatly dressed or groomed, people might dislike you. It is a way we are accidentally making everyone hate us. So one needs to be dressed well and look neatly groomed. For gents, it applies to growing of beard and having a haircut regularly, while for women, it is about facial makeup.

Gloomy and depressed: Also, you need to look cheerful and happy. If you look depressed or in pain, many people hate you instead of being sympathetic to you. One likes to befriend those who are happy and excited about life than those who are depressed with life.

Lack of self-confidence: People like those who are self-confident and smiling. If you lack confidence, it is seen in your face and people take you for granted and even dislike staying with you.

You are selfish: People also dislike those who are selfish. It is worth spending your time for yourself. But some part of it has to be spent for others to make them like you. Further, it develops love and warmth with them. So limit your selfishness and try to share with others.

There can be many other minor reasons for the question of why people hate me. But not all reasons need concern and thinking. Trying to have a few honest and dedicated friends is more important than having many friends who are not ready to help in need. So it is to be what you are but keep striving to be worthy in society to make others love you in the end.

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  1. About the part about hating someone out of jealousy. If the person who acts like this is a child or teen, or has significant disabilities (ex. Assistive technology or other distinctive physical features, notable communication difficulties), or is more open about their disability, then they might need more help learning how to deal with jealousy or other strong emotions. If the person is an adult who doesn't have any outward signs that they have a disability (e.x. no visible assistive technology or other distinctive physical characteristics, normal verbal communication), and is not as open about their disability, then they might simply need people to be very blunt with them, and tell them that they look like middle school students when they do this.


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